I’m no longer vital. Everyone will be fine even when I am not around.
A person with such thoughts does normally have a shocking life, linked with other factors which may lead to depression and a suicidal tendency. Suicidal tendency and behaviour are not normally the responses to stress. Depression is one of the reasons for 50% of the suicidal deaths and alcoholism with depression adds on to this tendency.
Depression is the result of certain medical conditions, change in the hormone levels, stress and strain, sorrow or difficulties faced in life and genetics. It is a common disorder related to the mind wherein the person experiences sadness, loss of interest in regular things, feeling of low self worth, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, feel of tiredness and poor attentiveness to the life around. Depression does not kill people in and of itself. An aggravated condition, if left untreated and unattended, may result in Suicide.It is very common for a depressed person to have thoughts of committing suicide, whether or not they intend to act on these thoughts. Depression is considered a ‘low energy’ state, but the opposite is usually true, which is accompanied with a lot of anxiety in-within.
Depression is feeling like you’ve lost something but having no clue when or where you last had it. Then one day you realise what you lost is yourself.
Suicide the act of taking one’s own life and the behaviour that triggers this person to commit suicide are the severe effects of Depression. Suicidal thoughts/ideation is the thought about how to kill oneself and it is not necessary that the plan of committing suicide is carried through. Suicidal ideations are of two forms: Active and Passive…
The most common life situations that are the reasons for suicidal cause are Sorrow and pain, sexual abuse, monetary crisis, guilt, refusal, relationship breakup, Workload and unemployment.
If someone is planning or thinking about committing suicide he or she would always be talking or thinking about death, show signs of deep sadness, loose interest in things, have trouble sleeping and eating. Once the situation gets grave they start showing nervousness, excessive grief, moodiness and unexpected fury and start feeling a deep sense of hopelessness about the future, with little hope that the situations can change. Excessive stress with depression is a sign to worry about. A chronic situation may lead to suicide. It is to remember that a person who attempts or commits suicide does not always want to die- they just want an end to the pain and suffering they are in.
A person having a suicidal tendency thinks that suicide is the permanent solution to the problems he is in…BUT NO Suicide is not the permanent solution to a temporary problem; hence one should give the time necessary for things to change and the pain to subside.
All mental health conditions are treatable and with a changed life style, treatment and medication, one can get out of these situations. Don’t give up before you’ve found the solution that works for you. Almost all problems can be treated or resolved.
How to come out of Suicidal thoughts and tendencies:
#1- Give time between your thought and action-Do not act in haste. There is no urgency to end your life. .
#2- Avoid drugs and alcohol- These aggravate your suicidal thoughts and gets you feel low.
#3- Make your home safe of all that could be handy for you to commit suicide and take the support of someone who can help you schedule your medication dose properly.
#4- Talk and share your heart with someone you trust and who listens to you with compassion. Avoid people who do not listen to you
#5- Have hope -Give yourself the time needed and don’t try to go it alone. The situations will change.
#6- Keep in touch with your Doctor, Therapist, Family and friends in cases of emergencies.
#7- Make a written regimen and try to spend a few hours in open /natural environment.
#8- Safe Physical Exercises helps.
#9- Enjoy whatever you do.
#10-Remember what you wanted to do and achieve in life and work on it.
Alcohol and Drugs
Think about ending your life
Things and situations that make you feel worse and low.
Steps to Recovery
Identify the feelings and situations which trigger the suicidal thoughts and keep away from them.
Move with people who influence you positively and who make you feel good
Keep yourselves engaged with good activities and hobbies
Engage into Meditation, Exercise and others stress relieving Activities
How we can help the people with Suicidal Tendency/Thoughts
Spend quality time with them
Bring positivity around them
Help them with regular medical aid.
Make them feel important
Boost their Morale.
Engage with them in their activities and appreciate them.
Avoid discussing the topics which may trigger the tendencies/thoughts.
Srishti Vyakaranam, the author of this article, is Fbb Femina Miss India Andhra Pradesh 2017 and Miss Asia Pacific International 2016 India representative. She wants to spread awareness about how depression effects a person & what one can do to cope with it.